Your Life Needs a Board Meeting: How Is Your Life, Really?The Board Meeting With Myself • Episode 1
There are meetings on my calendar for almost everything — meetings about work, meetings about patients, meetings about problems that need solving, decisions that need making, numbers that need reviewing, and plans that need adjusting. And recently, one thought stopped me in my tracks: When was the last time I held a formal meeting about my own life?
Not a moment of worry at 2:00 in the morning. Not a hurried mental checklist while driving. Not the occasional thought that I really need to get my life together. An actual meeting — a time intentionally placed on the calendar to sit down, look honestly at every area of my life, determine what is working, acknowledge what isn't, and decide what needs my attention next. And that is how The Board Meeting With Myself was born.
Welcome to the Boardroom
Village, we're starting a new practice together. Every Sunday, we're setting aside 20–30 minutes for a full Board Meeting. And every Wednesday, we're coming back for a 10-minute midweek check-in.
Sunday
Review. Reflect. Decide.
Wednesday
Check. Correct. Continue.
Why twice a week? Because I've learned that you can make the most beautiful plan on Sunday and be completely off course by Wednesday. Life happens. Schedules change. Emergencies appear. Other people's priorities start creeping onto our calendars, and sometimes we simply forget the promises we made to ourselves. So we're going to stop waiting until January 1st to evaluate our lives. We're going to pay attention every week.
This Boardroom Is Not a Courtroom
Before we go any further, I want to establish one important rule: the Boardroom will not become a courtroom. This is not another place for you to prosecute yourself. We're not gathering once a week to compile evidence of everything we did wrong, and we're certainly not going to compare our lives to somebody else's highlight reel.
The purpose of reflection is not condemnation. The purpose is course correction. We're going to tell ourselves the truth — but we're going to tell the truth with grace. We'll celebrate what is working, acknowledge where we've grown, notice what's been neglected, confront what needs confronting, and then decide what to do next.
Today's Question: How Is Your Life — Really?
For our very first Board Meeting, I don't want us to fix anything yet. First, we need a baseline. So today I want you to ask yourself one question: How is my life — really? Not how successful do you look. Not what everybody else thinks of you. Not even whether you're accomplishing enough. Strip away the titles, the responsibilities, the accomplishments, and the expectations for a moment. How are you?
How is your relationship with God? How is your body? How is your emotional wellbeing? How are your relationships, your finances, your home, your work, your rest, your peace? Sometimes we can be functioning exceptionally well while quietly struggling in areas nobody else can see. And because we're still functioning, we convince ourselves everything must be fine. But functioning and flourishing are not the same thing. Today, we're going to find out which one we're actually doing.
Start With What Is Working
Before you look for problems, begin with your wins. Ask yourself: What went well this week? Write down at least three things. Maybe you exercised. Maybe you finally had the conversation you'd been avoiding. Maybe you rested without feeling guilty, or spent meaningful time with your children, or prayed instead of panicking, or established a boundary. Maybe you simply survived a week that required everything you had. Count it.
We can become so consumed with the distance between where we are and where we want to be that we completely overlook the distance we've already traveled. Progress deserves acknowledgment.
Take Your Life Inventory
Now it's time for the dashboard. Give yourself a score from 1–10 in each of these areas. Don't obsess over the number — this isn't a test. The number simply forces us to stop saying fine and look a little more closely.
Faith & spiritual life
Physical health
Mental & emotional wellbeing
Marriage & relationships
Family
Career & purpose
Finances
Home & environment
Rest & joy
Peace
Once you have your scores, ask yourself: Where are you flourishing? Where are you struggling? What surprised you? And perhaps the harder question — which number have you been pretending isn't as low as it actually is? That area may need a seat near the front of today's meeting.
What Have You Been Neglecting?
Ask yourself honestly: What in my life needs attention that I keep refusing to give attention to? You probably already know. It may be your health, your marriage, your finances, or your relationship with God. It may be your sleep, a friendship, a dream, a difficult decision, or a conversation that's been waiting far too long. Perhaps the person you've been neglecting most is yourself.
You don't have to fix it today — but you do have to name it. Things rarely improve simply because we become better at avoiding them.
What Are You Tolerating That Is Costing You Peace?
This may be the hardest question in our first Board Meeting: What am I tolerating that is costing me peace? Sit with that one. Sometimes the greatest disturbances in our lives aren't mysteries — we know exactly what they are. We've simply become accustomed to living around them. The boundary that keeps getting crossed. The commitment we should have released months ago. The habit that is hurting us. The relationship dynamic that needs addressing. The schedule that is unsustainable. The constant yes when everything inside us is begging us to say no.
Ask yourself two questions: What am I tolerating? And: What is it costing me? Peace has a price. Make sure you're not spending yours unnecessarily.
Your Calendar Is Testifying
Now open your calendar from the past seven days. You may say God is important, your health is important, your marriage is important, your children are important, your rest is important, and that dream you've been talking about for five years is important. But here's the uncomfortable question: Did those things receive any of your time?
Our mouths tell us what we value. Our calendars often reveal what we're actually prioritizing. This isn't about perfectly optimizing every hour — some weeks are survival weeks, and life is life. We're looking for patterns. Because eventually, what repeatedly gets your time gets your life.
The One-Year Question
Now we're going to ask the question I want us to return to often in the Boardroom. Imagine repeating this exact week 52 times — same habits, same boundaries, same spiritual life, same spending, same relationship patterns, same health decisions, same schedule, same avoidance, same pace. If nothing changed and you simply repeated this week for an entire year, where would your life be one year from today? Would you want to arrive there?
If the answer is yes, wonderful — keep building. If the answer makes you uncomfortable, don't panic. That's exactly why we're meeting. The answer isn't a prophecy. It's information. And information allows us to change direction.
Decisions of the Board
We are not leaving today's meeting with seventeen goals. Choose no more than three priorities for the coming week, then complete these sentences:
This week I will __________.
I will stop __________.
I will protect __________.
I will make time for __________.
I will surrender __________.
These are your Decisions of the Board. Write them somewhere you'll see them — because Wednesday, we're checking the minutes. 😂
Invite God Into the Boardroom
There is one final seat at this table, and it is the most important one: God's. The purpose of this practice isn't to convince ourselves that we can control every outcome. We can't. It's about becoming better stewards of the lives we've been given while remaining surrendered to the One who gave them to us.
"Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."
Proverbs 16:3
So before you close your journal today, pray over what you've written. Ask God: What am I not seeing? What needs my attention, my courage, my discipline, my surrender? And then listen. Some weeks, the Board will decide that you need to work harder. Other weeks, the wisest decision may be to rest. Sometimes you'll need to start something; sometimes you'll need to stop. Sometimes you'll need to fight, and sometimes you'll need to release. Intentional living isn't about doing more — it's about becoming more deliberate about what deserves your life.
Until Wednesday…
Village, our first Board Meeting is complete. Keep your Decisions of the Board somewhere visible, because we're meeting again on Wednesday — and Wednesday is not another full life overhaul. It's ten minutes. We'll ask: What did the Board decide Sunday? Did I follow through? Where am I drifting? What needs correcting? What is the one thing I need to do before Sunday? That's it. Check. Correct. Continue.
You don't have to wait until next month. You don't have to wait until next year. And you certainly don't have to wait until your life falls apart before you pay attention to it. Put yourself on your own calendar. Tell yourself the truth. Give yourself grace. Make the necessary corrections. Invite God into the process. And keep becoming.
Sunday: Review. Reflect. Decide.
Wednesday: Check. Correct. Continue.
You are the CEO of your life. Live intentionally. Welcome to the Boardroom, Village.
Meeting adjourned.
